When it comes to planning your big day, one of the trickiest guest list decisions is whether or not to invite children. Some couples can’t imagine saying “I do” without their nieces and nephews by their side, while others dream of an elegant, child-free celebration.
So, what’s right for you? Let’s break it down.
The Pros of Inviting Kids
👶 Family Vibes
Weddings can be such a special day for families, and having kids around makes it feel even more like a big, beautiful family gathering.
💃 Joy + Energy
From flower girls stealing the show to little ones tearing it up on the dance floor, kids bring a fun, spontaneous energy to the day.
📸 Adorable Photo Moments
Kids in mini suits and fluffy dresses? Heart. Melted. These sweet moments make for some seriously cute memories.
The Cons of Having Kids at Your Wedding
😅 Unpredictability
Let’s be honest, kids are adorable, but they can be loud, restless, and totally unpredictable during key moments like your vows or speeches.
📋 Added Planning
Kid-friendly meals, high chairs, activities, babysitters… inviting children adds another layer of logistics.
🍷 Your Guests Might Want a Break
Some parents might welcome the chance to let their hair down, enjoy a night off, and toast to you without chasing toddlers around the venue.
If You Do Invite Kids, Here’s How to Keep Them Happy
🎨 Activity Packs or a Kids’ Table
Set up a table just for them with colouring books, puzzles, and craft kits to keep them entertained.
🎬 Chill-Out Zone
If your venue allows it, create a “kids corner” with soft mats, bean bags, and a movie playing. Bonus points for hiring a babysitter or childcare team.
🍦 Kid-Friendly Food + Treats
Mini burgers, fruit cups, and ice cream stations are always a hit.
🪄 Entertainment
Magicians, balloon artists, or even a mini puppet show can keep little guests busy during the reception.
Want a Child-Free Wedding? Here’s How to Say It Gracefully
It’s your day—and your choice. If you decide not to invite children, there are lovely ways to word it:
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“While we adore your little ones, this will be an adults-only celebration.”
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“We respectfully request no children at the ceremony or reception.”
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“We hope you enjoy a well-deserved night off and join us for an evening of celebration,adults only, please.”
💡 Tip: Let guests know early, ideally on the invite and your wedding website—so they have time to plan childcare.
Final Thoughts
There’s no one-size-fits-all answer here. Some couples can’t imagine their day without their best friend’s toddler stealing the limelight; others dream of an elegant, grown-up party. Go with what feels right for you, and communicate your choice with kindness.
Still working on your guest list? Check out our next post on who really needs an invite (and who doesn’t). We’ve got you covered, bestie.
