So, you’re engaged (congrats!), and now the big question looms… not that big question — this one: Should we elope or plan a traditional wedding?
In a world where weddings can range from 200-person ballroom affairs to quiet ceremonies under a tree in the woods, it’s easy to feel a little overwhelmed. Maybe you’re dreaming of a dress that trails behind you in the mountains. Or maybe you want the full sit-down dinner, flower wall, and all your cousins on the dance floor doing the Macarena.
Both paths are valid. And beautiful. Here’s what to consider when deciding whether to elope or not.
The Case for Eloping
1. Intimacy
If you want your wedding to feel deeply personal and just about the two of you (not your mum’s cousin’s friend’s dog walker), eloping creates a space for true connection. Whether it’s just the two of you or a tiny guest list, the vibe is calm, intentional and meaningful.
2. Budget-Friendly
Let’s be real. Weddings are expensive. Eloping can be a more affordable way to celebrate your love without sacrificing your savings or your honeymoon plans.
3. Flexibility
Want to get married on a cliff in New Zealand? In a chic city hall in Melbourne? On a road trip through the outback? Eloping gives you the freedom to dream big or small without a set schedule or seating chart.
4. Less Stress
No months of planning, no RSVPs to chase, no last-minute plus ones. Just you, your person, and maybe your celebrant and a photographer. Sounds like bliss, doesn’t it?
The Case for a Traditional Wedding
1. Celebrating with Loved Ones
For many couples, being surrounded by friends and family on such a special day is everything. It’s about shared memories, big laughs, and watching your grandma tear it up on the dance floor. It's worth considering if you might regret this side of things if you don't do it.
2. Ritual and Tradition
Walking down the aisle. The first dance. The speeches. If these moments are important to you, a traditional wedding gives them space to shine.
3. It’s a Once-in-a-Lifetime Moment
If you’ve dreamed of this day since you were little — the dress, the aisle, the flower girls, the whole thing — there’s absolutely nothing wrong with going big.
4. Bringing People Together
There’s something really beautiful about gathering your favourite people in one place. Especially if they don’t often get the chance to meet. Your wedding might be the reason old friends reconnect or distant cousins become new besties.
Can You Do Both?
Absolutely. Consider an elopement-style ceremony with a party later approach. Have a private ceremony now and celebrate with everyone else when you're ready. Or throw a mini wedding (aka a micro-wedding) that blends intimacy with celebration.
Final Thoughts
Ultimately, there’s no right or wrong way to get married. Just what feels right for you. Whether it’s whispering vows on a cliffside or walking down the aisle in front of a hundred people, the magic is in the meaning.
So. To elope or not to elope? Only you two can answer that. But whatever you choose, make sure it’s a celebration that reflects your love story, not anyone else’s.
